The exact causes of prostate cancer remain unknown

Furthermore, some research suggests the existence of several risk factors among men: being over 50 years old (risks increase with age), having a father or brother affected by this type of cancer, being of African Canadian origin, and regularly consuming foods high in animal fats.

Receiving a diagnosis of prostate cancer is a stressful event that often leads to feelings of helplessness, despair, and uncertainty about the future. Such news can provoke strong emotional and psychological reactions, such as fear, loneliness, and a sense of loss of control over one’s life.

These feelings may manifest even before the diagnosis is confirmed. A high PSA (Prostate-Specific Antigen) result, biopsies, and waiting for a diagnosis can all be psychologically devastating.

Whether children or adults, we have all encountered people who have died of cancer—a terrible disease too often associated with pain, suffering, and death. We tend to think, and especially hope, that cancer will never affect us. Unfortunately, it does happen, and if it does, the disease affects not only the patient but also their entire family.

Upon learning that they have prostate cancer, men are often in such a state of shock that they hear nothing else but the word “cancer”. “Why me?” they ask themselves. “What could I have done to end up like this? It’s not fair.” The feeling of guilt can lead to anger. The many reactions related to the disease, treatments, temporary changes in family life, as well as uncertainty about the future, can be major sources of anxiety.

In reality, no one is responsible for the onset of prostate cancer. Men who do not know who to turn to, who are unaware of the resources available, or who do not want to be a burden to their loved ones, may experience immense feelings of loneliness. Know that you are not alone. Every day in Quebec, 18 men receive a diagnosis of prostate cancer. It is estimated that about 23,000 Canadians will learn that they have the disease each year.

Learning about the disease is an excellent starting point. This approach can reduce the anxieties caused by the announcement of such a diagnosis and help you regain control of your life. You will also find it easier to make the necessary decisions in your situation. Medical resources and support groups will help you get through this ordeal. We encourage you to read all the information provided on this site and to establish an informed partnership with healthcare professionals regarding your care plans.

How to announce it

Informing family and friends

No one should face a crisis as serious as cancer alone. The people around you can help you. After the initial shock, you may wonder, “Who should I tell the news to? And when? How will my loved ones react? Should we tell them everything?” You will experience a range of emotions when you hear the diagnosis.

You will have mood swings, manifested by denial, depression, or anger. Your personality will be temporarily affected by this shock. Those who know you well in your circle will notice these changes and feel uncomfortable. Sooner or later, they will learn the news; therefore, in most cases, it is preferable that it comes from you.

You will find the strength to announce the news and the right time to do so. You will choose the family members and close friends to whom you want to confide. Most people believe that children should be informed, even though our instinct is to protect them. But children also feel discomfort. What you say to your loved ones will depend on their age, emotional maturity, and, of course, your own willingness to talk about your illness.

People will react differently to the news. Do not be upset if they have no immediate reaction. Some may need time to adjust. As for you, by talking about your illness, you open the door to communication; you give your loved ones the opportunity to express their feelings, comfort you, and help each other. Over time, most will find within themselves the resources needed to face this new and stressful situation.

Managing emotions

Shock, disbelief, anger, fear, and denial are all normal reactions to a disease that threatens your life. These emotions can affect your quality of life, and you must address them before taking action. The more you try to suppress your fears, the more they will increase and drain the energy you could use to fight the disease.

Of course, each case is unique, and each person reacts differently to stressful situations. Accepting this new reality—the prostate cancer—is an important first step in planning how to face the challenges related to your situation. Here is a list of coping mechanisms that may help you face prostate cancer:

Seek support: family members, close friends, and support groups are there to help you.

• Educate yourself about prostate cancer, its treatments, and its side effects. This will help you actively participate in the decision-making process regarding your illness.
• Do not be afraid to ask questions to your doctor.
• Preserve your self-esteem: live day by day, maintain a positive attitude, remain optimistic, and set realistic goals that give meaning to your life.
• Do not lose sight of your spiritual values and accept your own mortality.

Understanding the nature of your treatment choices

It is important to educate yourself about your treatment options to make an informed decision. To learn more, visit our Choosing your treatment page. It is important that you are well informed to fully understand your situation. You will feel more in control of your life, which will make decision-making easier.

Your resources

Upon receiving a diagnosis of prostate cancer, you and your family will be engaged in a lengthy process, both inside and outside the hospital environment. You will meet several healthcare professionals, which may seem confusing at times. Visit our Your team page to familiarize yourself with the various members of the medical team you may come into contact with.